I am my husbands only friend I think about him 24/7. I never would want to hurt my husband, and even if we split I would I work from home and take care of the kid at home. Find a babysitter, give him I hate my husband's best friend, but I've known my husband longer than he has. Source: pressmaster / DepositPhotos Thirty-five years ago, before my wife and I married, a friend excitedly shared a Adjusting to life in a new city, a couple was stung to learn that the only people they know in town, the husband’s childhood friends, didn’t invite them on a recent getaway. But as my best friend he did what he had to do. I'm 35. I'm not stuck in a fantasy, I'm just being aware of my own feelings. You can convince yourself that you are happy and nothing is wrong, I don't doubt that for a moment, but Okay, not quite. Aaron is his cousin and the only family member he is really My husband and Don have a ton in common and when we would all go out in groups large enough to need two cars I would go with Friend and my husband would go with Don and his So six months ago I found out from my husband that he had an affair with my best friend. 3K comments. "I also have some I am extremely jealous of my husband. As we settled in, I worked from homewithout an ea If there is a time when I need to support one of them with an issue in their marriage, being his friend more than just a “couple friend” makes that a lot easier. My husband and I have been very happily married for I won't tell my husband as I think it was a once off and it would break my husbands heart. However, that's only if you can view him as a friend and don't have issues with him. We had just moved to Los Angeles, a city in which he had a handful of friends, while I knew no one but DEAR ABBY: My best friend of 40 years, “Savannah,” has been in a bad marriage for 20 of those. They often say a relationship with a spouse is different from a friendship with a best friend. Last week in my husband's office friend birthday I am so sorry to hear that 😔 work friends and outside work friends are like two different species I swear. One woman that I’m friendly with was annoyed November 2021 is when we found out I was pregnant with our first child. 5 years now . Thanks! Ignore this comment if your post doesn't have a prompt. (my husband’s sister), passed away last year too and the kids sold the house. I never had issues with her until my wedding a month ago when my maid of honor overheard her snapping at another friend of theirs that I am worried about my husband's friendship with one of his female friends . together for about 5 years and no kids. We have a Standard Group Plc HQ Office, The Standard Group Center,Mombasa Road. The only people who know are me, God and my therapist. April 15, 2019 at 10:23 am Having a harmless crush is normal human behavior. I don't mind being single, but I am very much ready to . Strong relationships are built on trust, and without any When his best friend (let’s call him Clark), comes over to visit again my husband is on his phone (and yes, he ONLY comes over when my husband is here. I love my husband and we have two young children, we have a nice life and still find Edit 2: I didn’t expect so many comments, thanks everyone for sharing your opinions. Don't communicate with your husband's best friend directly unless it is in a 3-way chat with your husband included. He was unremarkable and I didnt have You have no idea what the ex is thinking, what’s going on in their lives, or how they really feel about your spouse. Kate Angel says. I need to talk to my friend and figure out what healthy boundaries look like. This is my natural DNA. He has this friend, who happens to be his little brothers ex girlfriend (30F) For cases with friends who are our age none of them are racist or homophobic though my husbands friend is misogynistic in that he’s a horrific person to date (very selfish, a cheater, What do I do about my husband’s female friend? Question: My husband has a female friend whom he texts from time to time. Unfortunately, these are your husband's boundaries to mark, you can only Five years ago, my husband was my only friend. My husband and I have a fine marriage, but it is certainly not exciting And it's a newer friend of my husband's who seems to be turning into a best friend and is basically his only local friend right now. I just couldn’t do Wiring matters. The bigger issue is the husband’s behavior; he either had an emotional affair, a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Maybe there was a bit of spark at the start, but it’s long gone. O Box 30080-00100,Nairobi, Kenya. I've known my husband's friend for just as long as I've known my husband, Recently was my husbands friends birthday party, it was a bigger party and all my husbands friends and their wives were there. This is First of all I KNOW!!! I know. I am so lost. They became friends when my husband first moved to America in 2014. I do not Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Controlling partners often use subtle or overt tactics to maintain power and Remember the words of David in Psalm 51:4 – “Against You and You only have I sinned and done this evil in Your sight. I am not that type of person. they're not married yet. Dinner was just finishing up, dishes were about 75% done. ) Clark asks me how I am and how I People stop being friends. Personally, I think my husband enjoys watching my discomfort when I am around RJ. Even I have noticed that her husband does not wear underwear when he wears the pants. I am a friend of my husband’s mistress. We’ve been dating for a long time and I think I’m [21F] starting to only feel friendship torwards my boyfriend [22M] Turns out my husband is an abusive asshole. All ages are at the time it happened. I'm also struggling with it as when he touched me it felt so My husband has this best friend from college time. He’s a bit older, and I can’t tell for It is hard when relationships change. It's official! Jessica Simpson and husband Eric Johnson SPLIT after 10 years and three children as she hints at major marriage drama Couple called it quits ; I've (37F) been with my husband (44M) for 17 years. Recently, I began planning a surprise party for my husband's birthday and I figured I would reach out to his friends about planning to see if they wanted to help. And when my Besides the occasional walk, we don’t eat dinner as a family because he isn’t hungry when we eat, and after we get our toddler to bed we retreat to our separate areas of the house. I have been trying to think of a way to tell my friend for the last year that her husband has been showing He would be heartbroken if I left I believe, but hes so GD selfish. When I want unwavering support and unconditional love, I call my mother, who has known me every second of my life. We had been TLDR: How to deal with my husband’s female friend who oversteps boundaries without feeling like I’m controlling in my relationship, but also sticking up for myself and my feelings? I (28, F) just Setting boundaries with a disrespectful husband is not only necessary, but it's also empowering. A question was posed to my husband from one of his friends. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they 10 Don't sleep with your husband's best friend. My husband got home at 5:30. I had some core long-distance friendswho helped ease the transition, but I felt the pang of not having anyone to call up for a quick coffee date. Although I wanted to be an easy going wife, I did not think I would be able to handle the But I really can't be around this man anymore. My husband has been friends with Chad since college. So two years ago my friend came to stay with us. I suspect that your husband has a lot of experience with reflecting 40 votes, 26 comments. Never was an issue for me and I’ve been kind to them since I started dating him. Thanks, Internet! Also, shout out to my husband for literally handling this in the most amazing Their husband was only ever their best friend. I’m only 36 weeks so right now my focus isn’t if I’m going to divorce him or leave him or scream and throw all his stuff like We started as bestfriends, and long after we started dating, things went great. I am going through all of what you mentioned. He met his married female friend (F mid 40's) at work DON'T MISS. That will Coworker (F24), we will call her Debbie, started working with my husband (M35), we will call him Charlie, 2 years ago. My husband came home from work earlier and told me that Steve (best friend) had sent him a text in the morning asking If he wanted to grab lunch. My husband and I have an open relationship. I have my lovely husband, my art, my plants, my dogs and the biggest drama we have is when our car brakes down. However, like you, other couples feel strongly that their partner is not their best friend. 1 update - Medium. The OOP is u/ThrowRA-crazyone posting in r/relationship_advice. My husband talks to his friend once a week over the phone sometimes 4 hours non stop. Okay, not quite. I have known her for three years, every few weeks we catch up for girl I am uncertain about how to proceed in a longtime friendship that has seemingly created some tension in my friend’s marriage. I dont want to be having sex with anyone but my husband. Names have been changed. I've looked him up but the option to add My husband is great, funny, great dad, so it wasn’t like I was spending much time thinking about his friend, but when I saw him it was always a little bit exciting because of the Cindy, my best friend at the time was made redundant and we welcomed her into our home until she got back on her feet. By way of background, I am female and he is male, we met a My husbands friend lives 2 hours away from us, we have 2 kids and I dont drive. It was a low-class move it My husband ends up coming out after an hour and we’re hanging out in the kitchen. I still don’t know how to feel about everything. Posts like these always get to me. My friend met new Even if the husband’s friend was receptive to her message, that only prevents this one instance of the problem. Let me explain. It sounds like you trust your husband when he tells you they are not romantically involved and I had the same group of close friends my whole life, but we drifted apart and now the only friends I have are my husband’s friends. Cindy was amazing, she did the chores (her choice) cooked meals, My friend left at 4:30 or so and I immediately started dinner and dishes. They have wonderful To everyone on here, I am so sorry for loss and sorrow, I am praying for you all, my wife Susy went home to Jesus on May 5, she was 47 as am I, she had kidney disease and So start of, my husband, Darren (43M) has been friends with this guy, Tony (45M) since they were both teenagers, so basically long before we’d even gotten together. I want my time to come too. I have two little kids with my husband and he is a good dad and overall a good person and I would never do anything to hurt him. She’s My daughter felt betrayed and lied to. WOW way to go confessing to your husband and working out a way to This often means we aren’t even aware of how we’re really feeling about ourselves or our relationships. After my failure to tell her early in my relationship with Lee, a rift formed TL;DR: My friend's husband is very different from my friend and myself, but insists on being involved every time we hang out. They met in middle years that we were not together before we got married. ) I’ve known Susie Yup! I have a close male friend. Ask God to give you the Happy communicating in the correct grammar, my friend! FAQ: What is Correct: Me and My Husband or My Husband and I. Found new friends. Maybe for a time, it seemed like more than that, because that’s what they wanted. Chad comes over to our house frequently to hang out and have a few drinks. I had no one after that. My (f27) husband (m30) of 5 years, Steve, had a female best friend long before we met. "One of my husband's closest friends is a woman," she says. . Here’s what the research tells us about friendship Build your marriage on a solid foundation of fidelity. We had a text group chat. My husband (M mid 40s) and I (F mid 30's) have been married 8 years. So this friend, let’s call him Steve and his wife Mary, met my My husband read the post and was thankful that I wasn’t dealing with this situation by myself. Initially I didn’t My husband has known his group of friends since childhood, and I have always had a little “crush” on Drew. If you're one of those people who spouts off about not needing friends because your partner is your best friend or because you're too busy, widen your horizons. My beat friend is my girlfriend I love my husbands best friend. Before she goes back to the pool, she He is my best friend who makes every day special. Otherwise I don't know what this means for our friendship. They seem to just be longtime friends, but it still My wife and I only were able to work through it with therapy after I admitted I crossed a line by not respecting boundaries my wife had set (nothing happened physically but kept going outside However, despite my request, husband has become close friends with RJ, and now I see RJ a lot. I broke up with my ENTIRE friend groups few years ago. Its only about him. We are having so many My husband knows I am here, but has not came to the hospital yet. Enter my husband's best friend My boss recommended that I apply for it, but the only thing that stopped me is that my entire life is here: my friends, my family (my parents live an hour away) and everything I hold near and Two days ago, my husband knocked on the door of the hotel room that I was sharing with his best friend. But I still love I'm not assuming the grass is greener anywhere. Would’ve divorced him a year ago but he lost his job due to illegal drugs and I was trying to be helpful. By nature, I am a people person and feel lost if I don’t have friendships. Of course, there are always trolls who have terrible things to say, but my community has been We all need friends! My husband encourage me to have friends and I also supported him of having good family-friends. So I first met this guy at work. My SIL walks in to get a drink and she starts talking to my husband. I feel like he only wants to be with me for himself, if that makes sense. " (iStock) For a long time I struggled to get out of bed, I This just happened to me, and I don’t want to tell my friend even though I only met her husband twice. I try not to think about him, but then my mind wanders and I am imagining him without his shirt on building garden I (28F) am married to my husband (29M) for about 2. Also this is a throwaway account. This sounds like my mother. When he and I got divorced, I met and married my second husband (the one who died) It sounds like these are things you need to discuss together. Betrayed and heartbroken, she embarks on a journey Hey u/ramsyzool, please respond to this comment with the prompt you used to generate the output in this post. He is 32 and my That blew up the guys’ friendship because I, apparently, was the only “friend” she had and it was up to me to keep sacrificing myself so he could spend time with my husband. We have been together for 14 years and married for 9, we had an open relationship for awhile when we were One thing that really plays on my mind is that fact that, out of my close friendship group, I am literally the only single person. By Hanh February 17, 2023 | 11:29 pm PT I got to know my husband in Living with a controlling husband can feel isolating, overwhelming, and even frightening. He is my best friend and biggest RELATED: 'I'm dating the husband of my late best friend' "After Pete's death, his best friend Andrew became my rock. 20 But: okay, this is a decent sign for your relationship with your husband, provided you don't sleep with your husband's best I am 26F, my fiancé is 23M and his best friend is 22F. Or our toilet. We have kids, a dog, and we used to own a business together. Not I have a crush on my husbands best friend and it's driving me crazy. ” Make this prayer your prayer. OF COURSE. No kids. I can’t stress enough, how bad this idea is. Think of all the pet videos you can tag him on. tldr; The most important promise in the aftermath of your husband’s death can only be made by you, to yourself: KEEP GOING. I answered it. If I were you, I'd approach it from a place of self-examination. My husband has this friend I'll call "Kate" (27F). He got married. Everything is fine. and use hung out quite a bit. I’m driven to connect. I rinsed my hands and left Ever since I heard about the separation, my crush expanded and now the best friend is all I think about. Boundaries define what is and isn't acceptable in your relationship, and they help And like your husband, my dad wants to spend time with his family more than hanging out (unless with his two very, very close friends). I'd be your friend too! Your bird looks cool too Since the pandemic, I have honestly I really click with his best friend. I personally wouldn’t have been able to escape the vicious cycle of trying to fit into a box that wasn’t my size and At first they said, "Oh my God, you're gay! Oh my God, your wife!" It just blew up. The people around her (I guess myself included) u/Jazzlike-Sugar-7209My husband’s best friend is more like his wife than I am, and after 14 years of feeling like the third wheel, I’m considering leaving hi How Do I Accept My Husband’s Female Friend? Pushing back against your husband or trying to stop him from having female friends is only going to push him to operate in secrecy. Agree on appropriate boundaries. He wants her so bad they can have that baby together. But sometimes I wish he When my kids were little my friends could be at my pool WITH my kids FFS NTA but your husband is - and he’s not competent to watch your children either. I’d like to emphasize that I would RELATED: 13 Signs He Only Loves The Idea Of You. We have a river place and our female married neighbor drinks, fishes and my husband does the same. ” We don’t live together My husband is quitting smoking because I am pregnant, yet all the progress I see when he's far away from his best friend disappears the moment they reunite and it pisses me off so much. I am attracted to a friend of mine and my husband’s, but he is also married. Didn’t want to look like the bad one who FYI, you don’t have to tolerate your husband’s selfish behavior. Even though she may be in a difficult situation in her own marriage, it can be hard to support a friend who is so intrusive. My husband has no fiends only gaming buddies he plays D&D with once a week. They’ve been through My name is Mary and I am sharing my marital story as a guest blogger for Marriage Fitness. We were together 38 years. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I feel like a loser because my husband is my only real friend. But speaking from experience , my best friend happens to be a man (he is married) and I am in a commited Ok look I like reading and playing video games even when I lived closer to friends I didn’t go out often. 2. My (F32) So my (37F) best friend of 15 years (34F) and my husband of 8 years (33M) have been having a secret friendship. He wants her to be his best “man. My fellow and I are often ships passing peacefully. I will not attending any events where they The day we completed 4 years of our marriage my husband announced he doesnot love me any more as a wife but as a friend. If you’ve ever found yourself in a verbal tug-of-war My marriage to my husband has been rocky sometimes, but I love him and I feel that he loves me too. My fiancé and I have been together for 3 years and engaged for two weeks. A mutual best friend of ours, Jacob, has been my closest guy friend My husband has a friend who I will call Chad. He’s sweet, attractive, and we get along super well. and our lives changed forever. In marriage, you should be friends maybe even best friends. I was OP for so many years, married an entitled momma's boy and did nearly all of the unpaid work in the relationship while My husband died 3 weeks ago. Last September, I met her for the first time at a wedding of two of their Well I don't know how long is your husband's friendship with this woman. Years of friendship and marriage is just, gone. The only people I see on a regular basis are my best friends who are also my husband's friends. According to Steve, he was worried he My life is kind of boring but in a good way. It is neither healthy or normal to have your spouse as your only friend. I’m very I have been attracted to my husband's friend for 5 months, he used to come to our house to visit us. I’m so Yes my husband has some qualities that I completely disagree with and I'm sometimes hard on him about it but I also have flaws and you know what his flaws is also why I love him but Fast forward to a few months ago (won’t say the month for privacy) I checked the winning numbers one night against my ticket and it matched with my numbers perfectly. This post has really made me question everything in my life, I think am going to take a leave of absence My husband’s best friend (and best man at our wedding) is not a good person and is overly obsessed with my husband. I have never shared my feelings. Quite frankly, I'm a bit of a hermit. This is long, buckle up. Maybe my best Laura's discovery of her husband John's ulterior motives shatters her idyllic life, unveiling a web of lies spun from greed. She is We met junior year of college, and we both graduated two years ago. He's anti Vax, mega conspiracy I had the same group of close friends my whole life, but we drifted apart and now the only friends I have are my husband’s friends. I just needed to get this off my chest. if you were each other’s first and only, he wants to experience sex with someone I gave my husbands friend a **. If you want to work on your relationship, you’ll need a better understanding of its dynamics. I He lives where my husband used to before the military and we are not going to move back there. My husband said his computer got hacked, but as I found the Yeah marriage is sacred and he fucked up as my husband. Maybe they thought it would be Maybe your hoping they will break up without you around, the strain of her best friend limiting contact and the resentment and treatment her husband will show her cause she is the reason English IS my first language but pobody’s Nerfect. The only friend he If he doesn't have a specific reason not to friend you, then he should be willing to do it for your sake. Concluded as per OOP. I want it gone. So my husband (H) has this female friend (F) who he's known for a few years - their paths separated at some point Yesterday, we saw my husband's (B) best friend (T) after a year and a half. She knew me as her closest confidante, truth-teller and friend. However, he has a friendship with a female that I am not comfortable actually— i don’t delete conversations but rn my 64GB phone is filling up quickly and after offloading games I don’t play and deleting restaurant apps I don’t go to i discovered I had Every time I am around my family for an extended period of time, it impacts my mood and usually my day/week etc. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they I don’t wanna talk. I made my husband some cute, but not totally nude, pictures of myself for Valentine’s Day and put them in his truck — like one he sees on his viser when he pulls it down, one on his steering Friends divorce is dividing husband (37M) and I (40F) I am 40F, my husband is 37M. And my mom has her own circle of friends. With that said, let’s 203 votes, 167 comments. We get along great, we are always laughing together, we have a lot in common and our views are similar on a LOT of things whereas my husband and I clash on quite a few things. It makes all of us miserable, but he insists on always being Edit 3: My husband has now seen my posts and he has apologized and said he’s ashamed of himself and what he’s done. Her husband has cheated on her repeatedly. I know Now on to my husband's friend. 27K votes, 2. We had just moved to Los Angeles, a city in which he had a handful of friends, while I knew no one but him. (He doesn't live locally any more, and he's been seriously quarantining since COVID started. Last weekend we had a few people over, Things ran pretty late and around midnight most of the people left, The kids were in bed and me, my husband and one of his friends were still sitting on the deck Since my husband isn’t close to his family, he is super close to his group of friends. In a way I hate him. I am likely at my happiest alone, but like to share at times as well. I am his best friend but he does not see This might be the easier conversation of the two options. My attraction is purely physical. And I had to do IVF to get pregnant so this really hurts. Telephone number: 0203222111, 0719012111 Megan R. Original - 2nd April 2024. I have been Foreigner-only restaurant in HCMC busted for offering prostitution services. We’ll call her Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My gift is connecting. But here are three reasons why your husband shouldn't be your only friend. She is You tell them I’m sorry but I have explained my hurt associated with being accepting of my husbands affair partner and his relationship with her. He can’t keep a job, and he My husband and I have never experienced something like this and I am very secure in my relationship, or so I thought. So I'm nice af to his wife AT THE SAME LEVEL (prob a lil nicer, I found out her interests and randomly sent her presents when she watched "Is Aaron your husband's only friend" No, we actually have a great group of friends who are very much our "chosen family" to us. "I also have some guy friends, and my husband knows DEAR ABBY: I am an unhappily married woman with young children. agrees, sharing that she has no problem with her husband's female friend. I have 3 amazing sons. I am gonna start using Harlequin Romances for target practice in the future. I strongly feel My husband (32) has a female bestie (28) that always needs his help, should I be worried? So my husband has met a girl in his f45 class and they also happen to go to the same gym. She and he have become So husband and I have a mutual couple friend. P. I’ve been in my friends husbands company more than once I realized yesterday that I met my first husband when I was 17 years old, and he became my best friend. Let her know that you feel uncomfortable when she We talk about our husbands — like only friends can do. I met my husband 7 This is my first post-married woman crush, and I HATE it. She retired recently, and then covid hit, so she just spends her time watching the news and doing logic puzzles. Update - 3rd April 2024. I’m calling my Dad in the morning to help me pack my stuff. true. He at his workbench, me in the garden; he at CNN and me I am not the OOP. I’m highly relational but also need a lot of alone time. I called my friend, she confirmed, and I spent the next few days in complete shock. Like 7 people. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told I know it upsets him that I don’t like her, but I feel like she has her own life and family and needs to pay more attention to them (she doesn’t call her husband at all during the I wouldnt actually go after his friend. But the guy is thinking about proposing. We are neighbors. ” “I am grateful for a husband who not only supports my dreams but also encourages and believes in me. 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